Apparently, some men believe they can be lesbians. Yes, you heard me right. On International Lesbian Day recently, UN Women – or Unwomen as some of us have named them – posted on X that was Twitter:
“Remember, trans lesbians are lesbians too. Let’s uplift and honour every expression of love and identity! Happy international lesbian day.”
The strapline on the trans flag banner reads:
‘TRANS LESBIANS ARE LESBIANS.’
That’s us told.
I have been a lesbian of the female variety for over four decades, and have lost count of the times that men have dared to asked me “How can you have sex without the proper equipment?”
It’s interesting how so many men think that if a penis is not involved, sex is impossible.
I have been asked, when out with a female partner, “Which one of you is the man?”
On the occasions I have been sexually harassed by a man in public and told him to sling his hook, I have been told “You look like a man!” Every lesbian I know has faced this insult, whether in full make up and a skirt, or jeans and a North Face jacket.
This last decade in particular has seen a growth in totally made up identities that allow the most boring of individuals to be included in the queer rainbow flag. Somebody who is questioning their sexuality for example; or a person who decides they don’t have any romantic feelings towards another, who is now an ‘aromantic’, or ‘asexual’. These are now included on the ever-growing acronym LGBTQQIA2S+++ which currently more resembles an unbreakable WiFi code than a ‘community’.
I was still at school when I was outed as a lesbian and was bullied relentlessly and called the worst of names. I was told I was a freak, asked if I ‘fancied’ all the girls in my class, and was excluded from babysitting in case I ‘infected’ the kids with my perversion.
In the late 1970s, when I left home and was living with a girlfriend, I was physically attacked, my front door graffitied, and sacked from my job, all because of prejudice towards lesbians.
I have been asked a number of times by male passers-by when walking home from a night out with a girlfriend if I would be happy to put on a lesbian sex show for their benefit.
Those that attack, abuse and threaten are, of course, straight men. But now some appear to believe that they can opt into a lesbian identity, despite the fact that they retain all of their male privilege and genitalia.
For these men, lesbians are nothing but a fantasy and a sex toy. The fact that they have now been legitimised by UN Women is sickening.
It is extremely difficult for many women to live as out lesbians, even today. I am very proud of my sexuality and recognise the bravery inherent to my community.
Groups such as Stonewall, that used to advocate for lesbians and gay men and are now basically trans rights organisations are a big part of the problem. Stonewall in particular allows men to speak for lesbians as lesbians. Stonewall ambassador Alex Drummond, resplendent in his beard and retaining his meat and two veg, describes himself as a trans woman and a lesbian and goes into schools to speak to young people about lesbian identity and issues.
For decades, my tribe have been labelled as frigid manhaters who are only lesbians because no man wants us. How odd, then, that some men would like to join the club! Well boys, let me make it clear to you: not on my watch.
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